The Meaning of the Word Family…

I have a few minutes to myself in between making dinner and working on homework so I decided to write a quick post.  So over the past few months I’ve had a one too many things happen that made me wonder what people think the word “family” really means.  Most people when asked this question would go straight to the generic answer, blood related relatives, i.e. mom, dad, sister, aunt….Well for me its a bit different.  Family to me is those that understand you, except you as you are, don’t judge and are just generally there when you need them.  For me a person does not need to be blood related to be thought of as family.  I have four best friends that are in no way related to me by blood, but everyone of them is family to me.  I would trust them with my life anytime, anywhere.  As for some of my family…that would never happen; in fact I have family members that have told me in not so direct terms that I need to change how I act, think and what I believe in.  I’m sorry, but that is not how family works.  If an intervention was need to keep me from harming myself or others then I would understand these actions, but that is not the case.

I’m happy with who I am, what I believe in, and how I live my life.  I refuse to conform because someone else tells me too.  I do not want to be someone else, I want to be myself and be free to live my life as I see fit with no one else telling me how to act, what to think or what I should like.  This being said brings me to my next soapbox….Why do people fall into this trap?  Why do they let people tell them how they should act or what they should be doing or what to believe?  We have free will for a reason…we can make our own choices about our lives.

I watch people raise their children to be like this.  They tell the child what to do, what to like, what is right, what is wrong, or who they can be friends with.  What I don’t see them do is taper this behavior off as the child gets older.  As children get older they have to learn how to make choices on their own.  They have to learn how to have good judgement.  If they do not learn these skills then they have a hard time in society, tending to make wrong choices.  They chose the wrong friend who then gets them onto the wrong path and things just spiral down from there.  These children become followers which can be a hard thing to unlearn.  They have no issue with doing everything they are told without question.  I’ve seen too many good people end up on the wrong side of life because they only understood how to follow instead of how to question and make a decision in life.  And don’t get me wrong many of them didn’t care that they were going down the wrong path, they just wanted to “fit in”, others just didn’t know how to get out.

At some point we have to learn to be our own person otherwise what is the point in living life just to walk, talk and look like someone else….At some point we have to learn how to live our own lives…

Alright sorry about the soapbox, but it was something that just struck me as I watch people around me which then followed into the second soapbox….All done I promise!

Superbowl Sunday…

What does my Superbowl Sunday include?? First off it does not require nor include watching the game.  I have far to many things to accomplish to sit around watching a four hour game when I can check the score via the Internet.  What it does include is homework, working out and some cleaning around the house.  This all goes back to my post on balancing life.  There are things that have to be sacrificed sometimes for other things to be accomplished.  In this case I have studying to accomplish and a football game will hinder that work.  I would also like to get a little reading in for the day too; which once again would not happen very well if the game is on.  I’ll be honest the only reason I tend to watch the game each year is because my husband watches it.  This year however he is away on business so there will be no game for me.  No I’m not sad nor do I feel that I’m missing out on anything.

I also have to get a run in (unfortunately it will be on the treadmill today thanks to the rainy weather).  I tallied my runs from January to discover that I ran 52 miles in 31 days.  That is a new PR for my monthly milage.  So I’ve set my February running goal at 100 miles.  This is doable as long as I remain focused on the goal.  And hopefully the weather improves some or at least is some what nice come February 7th for my 6-mile trail race.  I have an odd feeling that there will be snow on the path come next weekend.  Oh well should make for a fun event.

Something else that is being demanded of my time today…the cat.  Khloe is more demanding than the beagle most days and today is no exception.  Khloe is insisting that I play with her.  The more one ignores her the louder she screams…oh I mean talks.  It is rather annoying somedays, but it is also rather cute (on rare occasions).  At the moment the feather pole that she plays fetch with (yes she fetches toys) keeping inching closer and closer to me.  Guess this is what I get for buying a not so normal cat from a not so normal place.

Well back to life….

Safe journey….

Balancing life…

Balancing life…this is something that I have never claimed to find easy.  In fact I find it to be a challenge most days, especially during the school semester.  But I never dreamed how much more challenging it could become until I started my master’s degree a few weeks ago.  Before I just had to pass the class with a “C”, now I have to have a “B” or better.  This isn’t hard, in fact I completed my bachelors with a 3.65.  However those classes were not nearly as demanding as the classes for my master’s degree.

I always knew that a master’s degree was going to be a lot of work, but I didn’t realize the true amount until I actually started…good thing I’m only taking one class at a time for now (which is really two classes with my college because they rolled two classes into one and made them six units instead of three).  I’m finding the information presented to be rather interesting which will hopefully keep me fully engaged in the classes.  The downside is that the classes are going to take away from some of my personal writing time.  Personal writing time helps me keep the stress down and allows for my creative side to come out.

Well back to the homework…

Safe journey to all…

Ten Days Down…

The first week of the year is over.  I have to say that this week was very slow.  I was starting to wonder if it was ever going to end.  Part of the problem was the fact that I had the previous two weeks off, then I have no homework to fill in the empty spots throughout the day and I really had no work either since all the squadron I manage also had the holiday weeks off for the most part too.  However I can safely say that the homework dilemma is about to come to a screeching holt.  My first class begins on the 20th of January and my second on the 2nd of February.  I suspect that these classes will be my biggest challenge since they are graduate classes that have very different requirements from my previous undergraduate classes.  The good part is that the classes should be rather entertaining to keep my interest picked.

Weather here is a bit chilly to put it mildly, so I haven’t ventured outside much.  I’ll be glad when the weather improves because I really hate the whole staying inside thing.  Normally I don’t mind venturing out in the cold, but its just been nasty wild, rain, occasional snow and the rare occasion of ice out there making any outdoor adventure just miserable.  I’m hoping for an improvement in temperate at least by the beginning of February otherwise my six mile trail run is going to be more painful than required.

Other than the cold this year has gone well so far…the entire ten days of it.  My goals are going well.  I’ve stuck to them with minimal slippage.  I hope that everyone is having a great start to their year as well.  Are your goals and resolutions going well so far??  I find if I write about my goals that it helps to hold me accountable for them.  So tell me what your goals and resolutions are for the year??  Any fun and entertaining ways that you plan to stick with them??

Safe journey to all…

The Beginning….Again

It’s the beginning of the year…again.  This is an event that comes around every 365 days (or 366 days depending on the year).  Everyone decides that since it’s the beginning of yet another new year that they need to make resolutions…So what’s wrong with the other days of the year??  Why is it people have to wait tell the new year begins just to set a resolution to get in shape, eat healthier, go back to school or even travel more (just to name a few).  We can choose any day of any week of any month to just start something.  I find that people who decided they need to wait until the New Years day to set/start their resolutions do not tend to be successful in them.  Maybe it’s because they procrastinated so long that they have fallen into the repetitive situation of “well I can just start again in January and this time I’m be successful.”

I on the other hand prefer to always set new goals (not resolutions).  I tend to have a running list of goals throughout the year.  As I successfully complete one goal I add a new one to the list.  So when the New Year rolls around I already have a running list that I’m currently working on.  I realize that it’s the New Year and that means people have a new outlook on life, but really we should wake up every morning with a new outlook on life….we should wake up thankful that we are waking up.  There are no guarantees in life that once you fall a sleep that you will wake up the next morning.  Life is precious and short, we should be living it to the fullest every second, of everyday, of every month, of every year….we should be living everyday as if it might be our last!!

One thing that I do like to do at the beginning of the new year is to give it a name or purpose….So this year I have decided will be the “Year of Adventures and Spontaneity”.  It doesn’t matter what the adventure is, it could be me running a half-marathon in Chicago (which yes I’m doing this in July), waking up one morning to pick a forest on the map for a day of hiking or just visiting a new museum.  There are no rules other than new places and things and of course some days should not be planned, but just up and go.  Odd I know, but it allows me to do something for myself oppose to always doing things for others.  I forget sometimes that I need to be happy and do things for myself.  After a while I start to lose that feeling of individualism so this helps me keep my identity so to speak throughout the year without getting lost in the everyday rat race we call life and the keep up with the Jone’s type people around me.  I try to remove myself from these type of people since they tend to project negativity, but with my job it can be  hard to eliminate them all.

I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday season and I hope to hear about it.  Safe journey and see you soon….

The Holiday’s…

The Holiday’s can be such a stressful and busy time that we tend to forget to take time for ourselves.  So here is a little me time, my writing…It’s not much but it is something.  Tomorrow is going to be a rather easy day.  My husband and I are staying home for Christmas.  In fact I’ve even planned a hassle free meal for us.  Its a little non-traditional, but hey I’m a non-traditional type of gal.  Tomorrow’s meal will consist of a prime rib (super easy recipe with minimal prep work), some asparagus with garlic and asiago cheese and of course sweet potatoes.  Then for dessert I will be making Sticky Toffee Pudding…one of y all time favorite!  And of course there will be some beer and maybe even a mulled wine recipe that I came across from the 1800’s.  I’m not one for total tradition, I find it can be boring.  I like to change things up to keep life interesting.  Now don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with being traditional, its just not my style.

The best part about the holiday’s is not the gifts, but the friends and family.  In fact I always tell everyone not to get me anything, but some of them insist.  For the holiday’s I always donate time, money or needed items to local charities such as the local Children’s hospital, an animal rescue or even delivering meals to people.  The unfortunate part is that my husband and I do not have any family at our current location.  In order to see any family we have to fly or drive to the west coast, so it will just be us tomorrow.  As for friends I have a few good friends (I try not to use this term as loosely as some people do) in the area, but most of them have family here.  Regardless things will be great, good food, good television, maybe some reading, video games of course and some tasty food.  What more can a girl ask for…

I hope that everyone has a wonderful holiday….I wish you all the best and hope that you are all with loved ones whether they are family or dear friends.  May you all have a safe journey throughout this wonderful holiday season!!!!

Mid week…

Well the week seemed to be going fast, but that came to a screeching halt today.  It seemed like today was really slow, but it could be that I’m done with looking at test questions.  Overall this is a great experience and I’m glad that I had the chance to be involved.  However the after three days straight one starts to question their grip on sanity.  You start to question if you’ve looked at a question before, if the reference is correct because you can’t seem to find the answer on the page, or better yet if you just answered the same question in the last five minutes.  Just a few more days left…..breathe in breathe out.

So the good thing about today…we finished up a bit early, so I managed to get a pretty good late afternoon, early evening run in.  The base here is rather interesting with the buildings and trees.  One can clearly tell that this is an old base.  The weather was perfect for the run too.  It was a nice 65 degrees outside.  Not to warm, not to cold!  If only everyday could be like that….well maybe in eighteen months it will be that way again because hopefully I’ll be on my way back to California…..Nice warm weather again.  Can you tell that I have a dislike of cold weather??  Don’t get me wrong, I like cool weather and I’ll miss the first few snows of the year after that though the niceness of it all wears off.

Well time for a little reading before bed.  Safe and fun journey to all….