I have a few minutes to myself in between making dinner and working on homework so I decided to write a quick post. So over the past few months I’ve had a one too many things happen that made me wonder what people think the word “family” really means. Most people when asked this question would go straight to the generic answer, blood related relatives, i.e. mom, dad, sister, aunt….Well for me its a bit different. Family to me is those that understand you, except you as you are, don’t judge and are just generally there when you need them. For me a person does not need to be blood related to be thought of as family. I have four best friends that are in no way related to me by blood, but everyone of them is family to me. I would trust them with my life anytime, anywhere. As for some of my family…that would never happen; in fact I have family members that have told me in not so direct terms that I need to change how I act, think and what I believe in. I’m sorry, but that is not how family works. If an intervention was need to keep me from harming myself or others then I would understand these actions, but that is not the case.
I’m happy with who I am, what I believe in, and how I live my life. I refuse to conform because someone else tells me too. I do not want to be someone else, I want to be myself and be free to live my life as I see fit with no one else telling me how to act, what to think or what I should like. This being said brings me to my next soapbox….Why do people fall into this trap? Why do they let people tell them how they should act or what they should be doing or what to believe? We have free will for a reason…we can make our own choices about our lives.
I watch people raise their children to be like this. They tell the child what to do, what to like, what is right, what is wrong, or who they can be friends with. What I don’t see them do is taper this behavior off as the child gets older. As children get older they have to learn how to make choices on their own. They have to learn how to have good judgement. If they do not learn these skills then they have a hard time in society, tending to make wrong choices. They chose the wrong friend who then gets them onto the wrong path and things just spiral down from there. These children become followers which can be a hard thing to unlearn. They have no issue with doing everything they are told without question. I’ve seen too many good people end up on the wrong side of life because they only understood how to follow instead of how to question and make a decision in life. And don’t get me wrong many of them didn’t care that they were going down the wrong path, they just wanted to “fit in”, others just didn’t know how to get out.
At some point we have to learn to be our own person otherwise what is the point in living life just to walk, talk and look like someone else….At some point we have to learn how to live our own lives…
Alright sorry about the soapbox, but it was something that just struck me as I watch people around me which then followed into the second soapbox….All done I promise!